Shame is cyclical. I shame myself for feeling shame. I beat myself up and believe the voice that insists I should be further along in my healing. That I’m a fake and have been fooling everyone, including myself. Feelings of disgust and contempt follow. The merry-go-round of self-hate and shame spins ever faster. The merry-go-round you find yourself on is fueled by beliefs that have been programmed into you at a young age. Even though they may feel true, know that they are lies! When the most painful of emotions roll through, engage the power of breath and use it as a brake pedal. On the inhale, think: I’m putting on the brakes to the merry-go-round. On the exhale, think: Can I be gentle with myself?